The biggest mistake you can make is to treat a woman as if she is different by putting her on a pedestal or looking down on her and treating her bad. Most guys, on seeing an attractive woman, are like, “OMG, she is soooo hot and beautiful. I don’t really deserve such girl …” Why? Why don’t you deserve her? Because she is hot? Is she above you in any way? No. Is she more than you? No. She is a human being, just like you and me. Women expect you to be a bit above them. They like it when they can look up to a man and not only because you are taller. Have qualities that she can admire in you, the most important of which are your personality and ability to lead her in the right direction.

Flowers and presents – They are wonderful tools for keeping a relationship and showing a woman how important she is to you – but not for seducing her. It’s a common misconception that you will lay her by buying her flowers or gifts. A Man would reward her with that. But why should she be rewarded when you don’t even know her? When you go out with a girl, she is usually a complete stranger to you. Do you buy flowers for strangers? No. Do you send gifts to strangers? No. It’s OK to do so when you’re in love with her, and she’s in love with you. But please, forget those tools for the first few weeks at least. Most guys who try to date her will bring flowers or chocolate bonbons. She just laughs at such lame attempts. Separate yourself from the crowd. Be different. A Man doesn’t need to stand in
line. He knows what he wants, and he knows how to get it.

Complimenting – It’s easy to go the wrong way with compliments. A compliment here and there is fine, but avoid overdoing them. They get boring quickly. How you compliment her matters a lot: “Oh, you look soooo beautiful!” – This is lame. You are putting her on a pedestal. You praise her looks – she has heard this a thousand times already. Her looks are genetics. She can’t influence that. Another bad one: “Nice ass!” – Macho-style compliment. This is again a stupid way to do it. Compliment your buddy’s girl to your buddy like that, but not the girl you’re seeing. If she’s hot, she likes to be complimented because of her personality, style or general outlook. No one does that. She’ll be flattered by your noticing it.

Tell her she has a beautiful smile and that you like it when she smiles. Tell her she has nice earrings and that you like her taste. Tell her that you like her perfume and that it’s one of your favorites.

Compliments should always be short, to the point and uncomplicated. “Your eyes look
like a hundred shining stars in the moonlight.” – Leave this one for the poets. Just say: “Your
eyes are beautiful. I like looking at them.” The way you speak is very important. Be calm,
relaxed and not overly excited when complimenting her. Speak slowly, look into her eyes and
smile. Charm her like a real Man. Deliver compliments in a slow, soothing, seductive voice.
Don’t act like Romeo and overdo the seductive part, because it will sound stupid. Be casually
confident in your role.

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Meeting women online is the new way of doing things vs. the going to the bar to pick up girls. You get more of a variety and the rejection has a softer blow. It even helps to build confidence even in men who have absolutely none, making anyone into an alpha male. There are 5 Cs that you should know and apply to your life to successfully meet women online.

First, you will need to have Confidence. By having confidence gives others confidence in you. It shows girls that you have something going on to be proud about and will automatically feel that you are worth their time. The way you speak to them online or on the phone will help them decide whether you are worth their time. Once you meet the girl in person, you will need to show that you are truly confident. Hold your head up high, speak audibly and don’t slouch. Eye contact is also key.

Always keep Control. It is important for you to always keep control of situations and of yourself. Self control is not something that everyone has, so make sure to keep grasp of it. It is important that you keep control of your emotions and reactions to situations and conversations you encounter. When talking to girls online, you will need to stay in control of the conversation and not let it go too far or in directions you don’t intend them to go.

Be Comedic. Women love to laugh, so use your great sense of humor during conversations online and when you finally meet the girl in person. Humor helps to break the ice of first meeting someone and it relaxes the atmosphere. It allows the two of you to be yourself without wondering what the other is thinking; you have already proved to be easy going.

Enjoy the Challenge. Don’t be intimidated if a girl plays hard to get. Look at this like a hunt and go for the game. It will make it more interesting and if you end up with the girl, you will have a great triumph to celebrate. Or you can flip the switch and make it even more interesting. Show her that you are not interested and she will surely try to gain your attention and affection. Girls don’t like to be rejected, but they take it differently than men do. Men just give up, women look at it like a challenge and won’t stop until they get what they want – you.

Use Charm. By being charming will entice the girl you are talking to. Don’t be too upfront about your intentions because it may rub her the wrong way and run her off. You need to be a gentleman and show her that you know how to talk to a lady. Once you meet her in person, you will need to condone the same attitude. Show her a bit of chivalry and that you aren’t all talk.

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We tend to meet people within our social world of relevance. But sometimes, you have to venture out just a tad further to find what you’re looking for. Besides that, a little bit of adventure thats out of the ordinary isn’t going to kill you. Men are creatures of habit in that we have the tendency to meet women through people that we know. I’m sure that its happened that way for you just like it has with me.

The problem with that is one of two things usually happens before you indeed do find the right “hook-up.” Some of your friends who have a little more luck finding women than you do often tend to fall into the role of “broker” in that you start relying on them to fix you up with a date. But what happens when he runs out of “inventory” for you to take on that initial “test drive?” Theres the first downside that usually is part of the equation.

The second pitfall is that nine times out of ten, you usually wind up talking to someone, maybe even going out on a date with them once, only to find out that it was a flop. The personalities didnt mix and there was no chance at any chemistry developing. I say developing only because chemistry comes in two different packages. There is immediate chemistry where there are fireworks from the minute you start talking. Then there is that chemistry that takes a few encounters to develop with that woman.

The one plus about meeting women through people you know is that its more of a warmer environment for you versus the venturing out philosophy. When you venture outside of your “social network”, you’re doing what I compare to cold calling in the sales world. You approach women, not knowing anything about them, whereas when you’re hooked up by virtue of your friends, most of the time they know a little bit about her to give you some description or possibly history. The screening process has been done so you don’t have to go through that ordeal.

Sometimes, you may wind up dating someone who is involved or has a boyfriend. She may be in a relationship, but she may not be happy, so give her a reason to think that she could be happier with you. But just remember, never let your alligator mouth overload your hummingbird butt. In other words, be able to back up your claims at being better than what she has.

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They let you know that they run your name against a criminal database on all of their members and actively prosecute any person who “attempts” to commit adultery or any other criminal acts.

As a man, this really doesn’t help or hurt your chances at attracting a woman on True.com unless you have a felony or a serious misdemeanor.

However, as many of you already realize True does this to attract more women on their site since it is pretty much a given that men will come in droves to any site that has or has the potential of having women interested in men.

Of course, the type of women by a large majority that a dating site online will attract with their main marketing gimmicks are safety and background checks are women who are overly cautious or who have already been involved with a man with whom a background check would have been best before she got involved.

In other words, as a man you can expect to deal with more women wanting you to jump through unnecessary hips to meet and a greater chance of the women you do meet having a man in their recent past who you should be concerned with.

In the end, the matchmaking site True.com may or may not have more women online than your average dating site.

However, when signing up for a site like this, you need to make sure you have a system for success with women online already in place as well as being aware of any signs she may give you in regards to men in her past.

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First I am going to tell you why Facebook presents this exceptional opportunity for you and then I am going to tell you the how. It is important you do not skip this section because in this case understanding the why maybe be just as if not more important than the how. Given that over 60% of Facebook users are women let me try and determine why this is the case and why it is critical for your to understand.

Why do women love social networking sites? Back in the old days when we used to live in tribes of around 100 people men used to be depended on for the survival of their family. Women and their children depended on their man to provide for and protect for them, without a man a woman and her family would usually die. There were no social services in those days. Men developed a strongly independence as they had to depend on themselves for their own survival and the survival of their offspring.

Men who were abundance in the wealth they could provide for their family were seen as attractive as there men who can great strength and fitness who could protect their family. Men who had leadership and dominance were seen as attractive as they had the power to lead others and provide and protect their families thus men who also possessed these skills also found it easy to attract a female partner.

Women on the other hand had another set of qualities which they developed in order to increase the likelihood of their survival and that of their family. This can be best described as having great communication skills. Women depended on keeping a great relationship with their man for their own survival as losing them would mean certain death. They also had to master the art of communication with their children and families. Over thousands of years this characteristics have been hard wired into our brains so that men and women will excel at certain skills.

Today women can provide for themselves, they can easily get a job and by their own food and resources, they are not dependent on men for survival. Today women’s greatest skill is the one they most need to learn if they want to survive in the modern world. Learning how to communicate effectively is the key for men thriving and surviving in the modern world. There is no point in owning a billion dollar technology company or being the biggest, stronger guy in the gym if you can effectively communicate with a woman so that she stays around. Women do not have to wait around for men these days so communication is critical to attracting and keeping women.

Today people still live in tribes except they go under a different name, they are called called social networks today. Networks are a powerful influence over our every day life, the biggest more powerful networks can control an entire city, country or even an entire region. Advertising and media companies which now consist of a majority of female employees communicate with us on a daily basis whether we want them to or not. Communication is key to surviving and thriving in the modern era.

In a nutshell what I teach men is the communication and attraction skills they need to know to build their social network and attract more of the type of women they want to meet. The great news is it can be done very quickly even in a matter of days sometimes as your success building a strong network will often snowball into building up even more. Traditionally only the guys who women were naturally attracted to at a young age or were surrounded by women in high school developed the best communication skills and the biggest social networks.

The reason why I endorse developing skills at meeting women using social networking skills is that it is actually a whole lot easier. People who are in your social circle typically assume you are somewhat alike as like minded people usually spend their time together. If you go to a party filled with millionaires and beautiful women they are going to assume that you are a millionaire who attracts beautiful women even if you are flat broke. If you go to a party full of poor arts students then they are going to assume you are a poor arts student even if you are a millionaire. This works to your advantage because there is already some assumed rapport there because you are in the same social circle. All you need to do now is get attraction so lets talk about how to do that on Facebook.

Introducing the SCAN method

Search is the first step in your quest to meeting an attractive woman in your social circle. Now lets assume you have 100 friends on Facebook who all know around 20 that you don’t know and that those people know another 20 people that you don’t know. Applying the principle of the Six Degrees of Separation I am going to assume your social network goes five to six chains wide before you lose the connection. If you do the maths you will soon realize you have more people than you think in your extended network. I find it best not to approach new women in my immediate social circle if I don’t know they are single because I do not want to upset my social circle. So for example if I click on my friend John’s profile click view friends then find Sophie who is rather attract, then click view her friends this is the degree of separation I am looking for. Close enough to be in touch and still have commonality yet not close enough to upset any of males in my friend circle who might be courting the attractive woman. This is important because you do not want men and women in your social circle working against you, you want them working on your side talking you up and helping you out.

Connect is the next step after you have found a few women who are a friend of a friend then you want to contact them via the send message feature. Warning do not poke or add as a friend until after you have connected with them. There is a big difference between contacting a woman online and actually connecting with her. Does she respond to your message? When then you have made a connection.

I have noticed ever since I started spying on other guys that my “competition” typically do two things wrong. They only write one or two lines and make it generic and the woman does not respond because the guy is a stranger and doesn’t offer anything interesting about himself. Some guys make the mistake off writing way to much which telegraphs too much interest and turns the woman off. Each way can be like a cancer to your success meeting women online.

Here is a tip, write 8-12 lines or 2-3 paragraphs maximum, then I recommend you try and shorten it to 5-8 lines by cutting out the fluff and making your words more powerful and more meaningful. You want to make sure you include a call to action in every email you send out to a woman which leads to you both taking the first step. Make sure you only take it one step at a time so as not to telegraph too much interest or put too much pressure on the woman up front. The first call to action might simply be to mail you back, the second might be to ask for her IM or phone number, the third might be to talk to her on the phone and the fourth to meet up with her etc.

Attract is the next thing you need to ensure you are doing. Use emotional language in your writing too appeal to a woman, get her excited to respond to her. Make sure you have a great headline to make sure she responds to your email. It’s not that hard because most guys headlines are so bad, try using there name in the headline it will increase your response dramatically. I have already talked about a few of the male fitness indicators in this article so now I want to think about how you can apply them to your profile.

Negotiate is the next step, you need to negotiate talking on the phone and going on a date or to a party together. You are the one who is responsible for this part of the proceedings, you are the man you need to take the lead. Make sure you already have decided where you want to take her before you talk to her on the phone, make it casual and relaxed so it appeals to her. She is single and looking to meet someone but she does not want a guy who is all over her. You have got her interest and built some attraction so now you have to add some logic to give her a rationalization for meeting with you or getting physical with you. I am not saying you need to sell her on the idea, I am just saying you need to state the next step so it makes sense in line with what she is already thinking. Trying saying something like “hey you seem like a pretty interesting person, lets meet at this party/coffee shop I am going to be at on friday night and see if we get along.”

Facebook presents a great opportunity to meet a ton of women with no fear of rejection if you follow these simple steps. With just under a million more women on Facebook than men in the United States alone and similar figures world wide this is truly a great opportunity for you to take advantage of.

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Step #1 – Don’t let a failed attempt discourage you from trying again

Probably the most discouraging factor is that most men care too much about what the woman will think about him. Compatibility is not going to result each time, especially where one’s expectations of another are concerned. Do not fear rejection! If you can avoid it at all costs, stop worrying about screwing up. Worrying about messing up causes you to mess up every time. Just remember that.

Step #2 – Remember that when you are trying to pick up a girl, it’s YOU that are doing the choosing

Most women are smart enough to realize that if you start talking to them (or attempt to) that you are trying to pick up on them. Obviously, if you are trying to strike up a conversation, there’s a reason for it. Just remember that lots of guys have tried to pick her up before you showed up, and others will try after you’re no longer a part of the equation. The fact that nothing happens immediately, does not indicate whether or not she’s come to the decision making process.

Step #3 – If you enjoy what you’re doing when you’re with her, she will enjoy the time she spends with

This is a perfect example of “Be yourself. Don’t try to fake it.” Number one, she’ll catch on to what you’re doing and things will just go downhill from there. It isn’t a contest so if it seems like you are trying to “win” her, you’ll be headed for a failed attempt at companionship. Your priorities should be her laughter and her smiles. Doing this ensures future interaction as well as more enjoyable moments together.

Step #4 – Lay off excessive compliment

Don’t be an idiot by complimenting her looks right out of the chute. Letting you know that you are paying attention to her and what she is saying is sometimes the biggest compliment you can give her. Believe it or not, compliments about one’s looks can take a bad turn. Clothing and accessories, as well as anything that is out of the ordinary are good focal points for compliments, but mentioning anything about her appearance is a big NO-NO.

Step #5 – Appearing desirable builds attraction

If you appear to be the type of mate she is desirous of, the attraction factor will start almost immediately. Though it is hard to do for most men, sometimes you just need to learn from other men who have had greater success with women than what you’re having. There’s a lot of truth to the adage, “In order to be successful, surround yourself with successful people.” That is especially true when it comes to learning how to pick up women.

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Match.com has been involved in online dating since 195 and is perhaps one of the most recognizable dating sites online. None of which matters in terms of the type of success you can expect as a man online.

As a man looking for love or pretty much anything else with a woman you should seriously consider using Match.

Being as big as they are inline, one of the nicer features that they have is allowing you to look and browse all of the different profiles they have online.

Of course, if you want to actually write to any of the women that you see, then you, just pay for one of their reasonably priced monthly subscription options.

Although, if you truly are reading what women are writing in their profiles, you might be pleasantly surprised at the number of women who leave hints as to where they frequently go to as well as their email addresses.

Another feature that they have and as a man you are better off not using is the “flirt” button which is only used by people too lazy to type or too cheap to pay for a subscription.

In other words, it is something that only women should be using but many men who don’t know any better use as well.

In the end, with Match.com being as large as they are as a man who knows what he is doing online you can pretty much expect a certain amount of success.

Now, if you already know that you can use a little assistance in regards to your success with women online, all you have to do is begin taking advantage of the resources you have available to you online.

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Women who are online right now tend to respond to email that they receive while they are on the dating site.

Of course, all the rules of online dating for men pretty much stay the same.

The only thing that changes is usually your response rate time.

The first thing you are going to want to do is come up with an interesting enough email to make her want to respond.

Your first email is the most important because if she doesn’t respond to it the game is over.

Once she has responded to your email this is your chance to be bold and suggest the two of you meet for coffee right now or you can hold off and suggest another time and date and at the same time ask for her phone number.

Her next response must be moving towards a meeting, if it in anyway is only moving towards another email the game is over.

However, if she has given you her phone number only call when you have a specific thin in mind for you two.

Even though, you have eliminated the serial online daters the serial phone daters still exist as well as the “stand him uppers”.

To limit these types of women from having an effect on you it is important that you call her knowing what it is you want to do (where to meet) and that the time is one at which you aren’t missing out on anything important or would want to do.

In the end, the “Online Now” search option is an effective tool for men o use o meet women online, if used correctly.

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They also will tell you that when trying to make a good first impression you should avoid leaning back for those exact same reasons.

However, when it comes to attracting women, leaning back is perhaps one of the most powerful things you can do.

If a woman likes you and is interested in what you have to say, your leaning back will cause her to lean in more to hear what you have to say.

If a woman is neutral in regards to her interest in you she still must act as if she likes you and lean in to determine if she might like you.

As for women who don’t like you, it will be easier to know which ones they are when they aren’t leaning in and are more than likely leaning back as well.

In other words, when you lean back most women, whether they realize it or not, will reveal the amount of interest they really have in you.

The more they lean in as you lean back the greater amount of interest they have in you which you can then decide to turn into attraction or not.

If she too is leaning back you can lean in to see if she follows; if she does then her interest is great, if she doesn’t then odds are she isn’t interested in you.

Since you have better things to do than waste your time with a woman who isn’t interested, leaning back allows you to discover that much more quickly as well.

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More often than not, talking to another woman is far less work than trying to get a decent conversation going with a bloke. How many times haven’t you tried initiating conversation by mentioning something you’re sure he’d find agreeable only to receive the standard “mmmm” reply. If you know he loves BMWs and there’s a fine example of one parked along the road, try saying “that’s a nice car, isn’t it?” and see what happens. Yepp, the standard reply. If you really want to get him talking, try “I can’t see what anybody sees in those cars” and before you know it, he’ll be chatting on about how reliable the engine of a BMW is (assuming it is, of course), how comfortable the interior is, not to mention how well planned the layout is and the luggage room’s just awesome! And did you know it can do 0-60 at the speed of a fart? The point is, men need to be dragged into action through a good disagreement. Small talk, just for the sake of it, isn’t their forte.

It’s hardly surprising, given our differences, that men become frustrated at their women who constantly want to talk about things that offer no argument. They don’t see the point in discussing the scent of the roses unless you happen to think it smells like sherbet whilst he thinks it smells of honey! And if you’ve already decided to get a Greyhound, why continue to talk about them? The subject would really only merit further discussion if you’ve started doubting the decision but to him, simply reiterating that Greyhounds make wonderful pets is hardly worthy of word expenditure.

Women, on the other hand, are happy to spend hours discussing various aspects of life, be it which washing powder does the job best (although I have to admit that this particular subject has a short life around here) to whether or not there’s life in outer space. We’ll analyse our lives from every perceivable angle and serve our emotions on a plate to be shared and devoured. When we talk about sex it’s because we’re either experiencing difficulties in that department or finally achieved multiple orgasm. The fact that the bloke standing next to the BMW (the one you earlier admired with your partner) has a huge lunch box isn’t THAT important to us. Sure, we’ll joke about it but where men stop at “I’d give her one”, women will discuss ‘why’ they’d give him one.

How often have you known your partner (or father or brother) to pick up the phone for no other reason than because they fancy a chat? They may well have done during your courting days but do they ever call their male friends just to have a natter? I doubt it. Women, on the other hand, can spend hours on the phone to the same girlfriend, talking about anything and everything, going into minute detail about every event that’s happened since last time they spoke and still finding it all just as interesting as they would’ve had it been the very first conversation they’d ever had. When witnessing this behaviour, men simply shake their heads and wonder how the heck we can find so much to talk about to somebody we visited with for three hours just last week. To a man, the telephone is either a means of making contact when something needs to be said or done or, for some, a means of getting a quick thrill through dialling premium rate numbers. It certainly isn’t a tool designed for nurturing friendships.

I’m not saying that men will never talk; of course they talk. Men are great at discussing business deals and are generally happier speaking publicly than women are but they need a definite goal to make talking worthwhile. To them, when talking about next door’s new car, the technical specs are what interest them, whereas we’d probably wonder about it’s cost and how on earth they managed to afford it! Gossipy, yes, but that also comes naturally to women.

Evidently, our propensity for gossip stems from way back when we lived in caves. The men went out to hunt leaving the women to look after the cave and offspring. For those women, it was important to know what was going on around them in order to keep their own home and family safe, something which eventually evolved into gossip once we mastered the art of meaningful speech. Knowing that Missus Chucklebum could be likely to steal your food supplies or that old man Poop-pants had been known to rape women while their men were away were important things to know. Gossip was what moved this information quickly through the villages, rather like the jungle drum. Unfortunately, gossip often changes facts so poor old Annie Spottyface was seduced by Tommy Littleballs could easily turn into something that makes Annie sound as if she’s slept with half the village.

Men, as much as they deny it, also gossip. They don’t see it as such because their gossip takes on a different stance. Knowing that Dave has put a new turbo in his motor or that Bob’s been promoted is just as much gossip as anything we women talk about. Men gossip because, going back to the days of old again, they needed to know which tribes or villages were strong and with which weapons they were likely to fight with. That sort of thing translates in our modern society to who’s got the most money (money = power) and what they’ve earned it by doing. Facts were, and still are, important to them from a strategic point of view. My partner would call it “intelligence gathering” but no matter what impressive name you put to it and how pretty the packaging is, it’s still gossip, plain and simple. They just don’t do it quite as much as us ladies.

Conversation’s a bonding agent between women, something that men don’t need. They bond through activities; either doing them or discussing them. If they’re not out on some muddy field kicking a ball around then it’ll be “Did you see Beckham’s penalty last night?”. Oh, and “look at the knockers on that” will sometimes come into play because sex is an activity just as much as football, biking, fixing cars, fishing or downing pints.

Most of us have heard that women use about three times as many words a day than men but even so, mixed gender company, men are likely to dominate the conversation. Why? Because they need to exert their power and strength, of course. That isn’t to say there aren’t women who wouldn’t dream of allowing a man to dominate in this way and there are also men who wouldn’t dream of trying but in general, men like to have their voices heard. I’m afraid we girls have to take some of the blame for that, too, because of our tendency to tack a question on the end of a statement. Saying “that was a lovely meal, wasn’t it?” allows others to jump straight in and, in the case of a man, answering the question then allows him to go on to change the subject in order to satisfy his need to dominate the conversation. Believe me, the only way we can control a conversation is to stop leaving open-ends, because while we might see them as showing a concern for the opinions of others, men will see them as weak statements from a woman who doesn’t know her own mind.

Another way in which the sexes differ can be clearly seen when a woman wants to discuss something that’s bothering her. I’d be reasonably well off now if I’d been given a pound for every time I heard a woman complain “he always has to be so argumentative”. He isn’t doing it to hurt, though; it’s just his nature. Discussion’s good, small talk’s a waste of time. We just have to accept that they’re not women (and I can assure you there are times when I’m glad my partner isn’t) and let them do what comes naturally. That, incidently, also includes offering advice. Again, for him, if the conversation’s to achieve anything, a solution’s needed. You might not want advice but he’s gonna give it, regardless. One friend complained that her husband wouldn’t listen to her problems because she never took his advice anyway and if she isn’t going to listen to him, why should he bother to listen to her? I can see that a man could get frustrated by women who “don’t listen” but when we desperately want to share our feelings with somebody else without being “told what to do”, that’s when we really need our women friends.

For life to continue, women need men, but when it comes to talking, women need women. It’s good to be understood.

About The Author

Sharon Jacobsen is a freelance writer living in South Cheshire, England, with her partner and however many of her three children happen to be living at home at any given time. To contact Sharon or to learn more about her work, please visit http://www.sharon-jacobsen.co.uk