Junk and Sugar

>A common complaint I hear from men when it comes to online dating and women is;

The amount of unattractive or damaged women that want too much in a man!

They tell me how a single mother of three shouldn’t be so picky or how she should lose some weight before making demands like that.

My first thought on the situation is who cares what a woman says she wants if you aren’t attracted to her.

Yet, what I find myself asking men who say this is what causes you to even be willing to settle for a woman like this if she wasn’t asking for what she is asking for.

Most online dating sites have a search function that allows you to eliminate women with children, heavyset women, and any number of things that you do not want.

It is also important to remember that just because she says it in her profile doesn’t mean that is the reality that she lives in.

When you are doing a search online it is important that you already know what you are willing to accept and not accept in a woman.

The only two that she can usually reveal online are her weight and her children; everything else is her just talking.

If she fits into what you are willing to accept find the connection that you two have and send her an email letting her know just that.

However, if you discover that she does not fit into what you are willing to accept move on to the next profile and forget about her, because she need not exist in your mind.

In the end, all a woman’s profile can reveal is who she would like to meet, if you already know that you would not like to meet her then who cares who she wants to meet.

More importantly, remember that if you would like o meet her it is then up to you to create a reason for her to want to meet you. Read the rest of this entry »

Hopefully you already know that women as a whole do not call men first.

So what is a man to do when a woman that he has emailed from an online dating site writes “If you want to talk sometime give me your phone number”?
After all in many ways this might seem promising as she is the one initiating that the two of you take this online meeting offline.

Well, the answer is quite simple; you respond to her email with an invitation for her to give you her phone number.

Her asking for your phone number means nothing more than when a woman in the real world asks for your phone number.

The results are close to the same if not worst online, a majority of the women will not call you first and the ones that do will be looking to take advantage of you.

Yet, when you simply ask for her phone number instead of giving her your own something remarkable happens.

The only women who will not give you her phone number are the ones who have no intention of ever meeting you in person (or calling for that matter) and women who are looking to completely control you.

In other words, the types of women you want to avoid or can’t get in the first place.

Asking her for her phone number is the only thing a man can do in a situation like this if he wants a woman that is of quality and will make him happy.

What it always will come down to is a man must always lead a woman to where he wants to go even if it seems as if she is already headed there.

Otherwise, you run a greater chance of ending up somewhere that you don’t want to be all by yourself. Read the rest of this entry »

When you first visit the online dating site True the one thing that you’ll notice that sets them apart form all of the other “matchmaker” dating sites online is their concern for your safety.

They let you know that they run your name against a criminal database on all of their members and actively prosecute any person who “attempts” to commit adultery or any other criminal acts.

As a man, this really doesn’t help or hurt your chances at attracting a woman on True.com unless you have a felony or a serious misdemeanor.

However, as many of you already realize True does this to attract more women on their site since it is pretty much a given that men will come in droves to any site that has or has the potential of having women interested in men.

Of course, the type of women by a large majority that a dating site online will attract with their main marketing gimmicks are safety and background checks are women who are overly cautious or who have already been involved with a man with whom a background check would have been best before she got involved.

In other words, as a man you can expect to deal with more women wanting you to jump through unnecessary hips to meet and a greater chance of the women you do meet having a man in their recent past who you should be concerned with.

In the end, the matchmaking site True.com may or may not have more women online than your average dating site.

However, when signing up for a site like this, you need to make sure you have a system for success with women online already in place as well as being aware of any signs she may give you in regards to men in her past. Read the rest of this entry »