Junk and Sugar

Anyone who’s not used to approaching strangers will have a fear of it. That’s normal.
Some people will find it easy; some will find it really hard to overcome this. It’s like you’re an actor going on stage for the first time in front of a large audience. You will feel your heart pumping, butterflies in your stomach and a lump in your throat … Even the most seasoned actors will feel anxiety before going on stage, but the difference is that they LEARN TO CONTROL IT.

So that’s what you will have to do as well. Learn to control your fear and anxiety of approaching women you don’t know. Women strangers - man, how scary does that sound? You never did that, right? You will, my friend, you will! There are two schools of thought on dealing with the fear of approaching strangers. The first advocates therapy, as ridiculous as that may sound. In my opinion, doing a few exercises in your imagination might help somewhat, but won’t bring noticeable results.
What I subscribe to is shock therapy. That’s how I got rid of my fear back when.

If you want to quit smoking, you won’t do it with a bunch of nicotine patches. You’ll have to make the decision to stop for good. From that point on, there is no more smoking. It’s the same with girls. You’re standing in a club surrounded by girls. Your heart is pounding. What should you do? You will decide to end your misery FOR ONCE and approach a girl RIGHT NOW … just one of them. Of course, your first approach won’t be perfect. But as the saying goes, practice makes perfect. And that’s why I recommend mass approaches for your first time. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m sure you’ve had a date with a girl that didn’t go the way you expected. It happens to
everyone. Just realize that it’s not a matter of some invisible cloud following you around. How women respond to you depends on your personality and Manliness. There are common errors men tend to make when going out with a woman. Small details count a lot in the big picture. A little bit of inconsistency within your Manly frame, and you lose her. This is what I’ll be talking about in this article.

The biggest mistake you can make is to treat a woman as if she is different by putting her on a pedestal or looking down on her and treating her bad. Most guys, on seeing an attractive woman, are like, “OMG, she is soooo hot and beautiful. I don’t really deserve such girl …” Why? Why don’t you deserve her? Because she is hot? Is she above you in any way? No. Is she more than you? No. She is a human being, just like you and me. Women expect you to be a bit above them. They like it when they can look up to a man and not only because you are taller. Have qualities that she can admire in you, the most important of which are your personality and ability to lead her in the right direction.

Flowers and presents - They are wonderful tools for keeping a relationship and showing a woman how important she is to you - but not for seducing her. It’s a common misconception that you will lay her by buying her flowers or gifts. A Man would reward her with that. But why should she be rewarded when you don’t even know her? When you go out with a girl, she is usually a complete stranger to you. Do you buy flowers for strangers? No. Do you send gifts to strangers? No. It’s OK to do so when you’re in love with her, and she’s in love with you. But please, forget those tools for the first few weeks at least. Most guys who try to date her will bring flowers or chocolate bonbons. She just laughs at such lame attempts. Separate yourself from the crowd. Be different. A Man doesn’t need to stand in
line. He knows what he wants, and he knows how to get it.

Complimenting - It’s easy to go the wrong way with compliments. A compliment here and there is fine, but avoid overdoing them. They get boring quickly. How you compliment her matters a lot: “Oh, you look soooo beautiful!” - This is lame. You are putting her on a pedestal. You praise her looks - she has heard this a thousand times already. Her looks are genetics. She can’t influence that. Another bad one: “Nice ass!” - Macho-style compliment. This is again a stupid way to do it. Compliment your buddy’s girl to your buddy like that, but not the girl you’re seeing. If she’s hot, she likes to be complimented because of her personality, style or general outlook. No one does that. She’ll be flattered by your noticing it.

Tell her she has a beautiful smile and that you like it when she smiles. Tell her she has nice earrings and that you like her taste. Tell her that you like her perfume and that it’s one of your favorites. Read the rest of this entry »

Apart from clubs, there are many other places to meet girls. These include shopping malls, university campuses, the street and other venues I have already mentioned. The difference is that at most of these places, women don’t expect to be approached, and they are in a different mood. Usually, just by going up to them, you will create a large amount of attraction. But always be careful not to come off as threatening. Yelling “Stop!” at a girl on the street with a serious expression on your face might not be the best way to approach her. I wouldn’t recommend touching her either: Imagine being a woman, and some stranger on the street suddenly puts his hands on your shoulders.

Just choose the girl you want to approach: on the street, in a shopping mall or anywhere else. Try to make eye contact with her. Whether she looks back at you or not, smile, then go straight up to her. Don’t approach her from behind or from the side. Your goal is not to scare her to death, but to talk to her. When you’re in front of her, raise your hand gently and say, “Stop,” while still smiling and looking in her eyes. If she is located elsewhere, like sitting on a bench, sit next to her. Your state should be the same as when approaching a girl in a club. Be happy about meeting her and show it. You can use one of the “I like you” lines: “Hi! I like you. You have a beautiful smile.”

After she recovers from her surprise and you talk a bit, you can offer to take her to a nearby café if she’s not in a hurry. Shopping malls are ideal for this, because there are usually several restaurants and cafés inside. If she has to leave, just say: “I see you’re in a hurry, but I want to meet you later and get to know you better. Let’s exchange numbers, and we can meet in a café to talk later.” Then take her number.

If both of you have some spare time, it’s not a bad idea to stay together and switch venues. For example, if you meet at the shopping mall, sit and talk in a café for an hour or two; then you can take her for a walk at the nearby park and kiss her. The more time you spend with her and the more places you visit together, the closer she will feel to you, as if she’s known you for some time. Try it. And, by the way, you can do the same thing when picking her up in a club: Just extract her from the club; then visit a restaurant or another place as if you were already a couple.

Another way to meet girls is in your own social circle, that is, your friends and the people they introduce you to. Visiting a house party organized by your buddies, or going out together is the easiest way to pick up a girl in your circle of friends. Just make sure when you are new in a group that you don’t fight for attention or try to be the center by being loud. Lay back and watch the dynamics going on in the conversation. There is no need to use any specific opener; just approach the girl you want when the time is right, and talk to her. Read the rest of this entry »